We have been doing the alarm ritual for years due to our goofy alarm. You basically lock all of the doors with the inside electric lock or the key fob. Then you click the fob once to unlock just the drivers side(which also disarms the alarm) and manually press the top lock pin down. The net effect is to have all doors locked but the alarm disabled. My wife is OK with this method. If I am by myself, I exit the van and just manually push down the button because I know all the other doors are automatically locked after going faster than 16 MPH.
Honestly, the alarm systems are a joke anyway. They false trigger on so many cars(not just Chryslers) that no one pays them any more attention. Now, if the car could silently send you an email alarm on your Blackberry ....you'd ignore it as well!
98 Town&Country LXI, 3.8L, 192k miles (sold)